Sometime a flash of serendipity hits and I find myself so tickled by the good fortune of this happening I?m beside myself.? I just want to get up and do a little happy dance.
Earlier this week I had a somewhat nasty encounter with some ?radical feminist? shits that resulted in my unfriending one of them.
During that encounter one of her sycophants went on about how all T to M people were butch dykes to start with.? Now I actual have met a whole conference full of brothers at a get together that was not only fun but really enlightening.? I know there are an awful lots of T to M folks who are gay or bisexual men after they have transition and who didn?t think of themselves as lesbians before.? (That?s leaving aside those brothers who are heterosexual after transition who no more thought of themselves as lesbians than most heterosexual after transition sister thought of themselves as gay men.)
One of the RFs made the all knowing statement that there weren?t any heterosexual women who did this and expected their husbands to stay with them.
Gee?? All these years in the life have taught me that there are very few people who live up to the image that is held up as the norm.? I?ve seen all sorts of relationships; good, bad and downright ugly.
I know that the affection and love people feel for us isn?t exactly based on the perfection of our genitals or even if they are innies or outies.
This isn?t to say transitioning and going through surgery is exactly easy on relationships.? Indeed most probably break up, often acrimoniously.
Some do not and while the relationship surviving transition from ?heterosexual? to lesbian seems more common than ?heterosexual? to gay it does occur.? Probably more often than we think.
From NPR:? http://www.npr.org/2012/03/09/148178236/a-mom-becomes-a-man-and-a-family-sticks-together
by NPR Staff
Mar. 9, 2012
This spring, Les and Scott GrantSmith will mark their 25th wedding anniversary. The couple raised two daughters along the way. But 15 years ago, they hit a crisis that nearly shattered their family. Les was keeping a secret, and that became a problem. But they solved it as a family, in a way that kept them together and happy.
In the weeks leading up to that day back in 1997, Les was certain of two things: She was a mother who loved her daughters ? and she was also transgender, the term for someone born in a body of the wrong sex.
Les grew depressed and withdrawn, terrified that revealing her need to live her life as a man would mean losing Scott and their daughters, Thea and Amanda.
Weeks passed in which the couple barely spoke. Finally, Scott confronted his wife, just two days before Thanksgiving.
Not long ago, the two of them sat down to recall the conversation that followed.
?I said, ?What?s going on?? ? Scott recalls. ?And then you said, ?I can?t tell you. Because if I do, you?ll leave me and take the children and I?ll never see them again.? And I said, ?You?d probably better tell me then. Because you can?t ? you can?t leave it hanging like that.? ?
?You can?t leave it like that,? Les agrees. ?So, that?s when I told you.?
?First thing I remember is that you, you said that you were in the wrong body, that you should be a man,? Scott says.
?And if it had seemed to me that I was going to lose you, and I was going to lose the kids, I would have said, ?OK. I?m not transitioning.? But you told me that we?ll work it out.?
Continue reading at:? http://www.npr.org/2012/03/09/148178236/a-mom-becomes-a-man-and-a-family-sticks-together
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Source: http://womenborntranssexual.com/2012/03/09/a-mom-becomes-a-man-and-a-family-sticks-together/
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